How to read body language

I’m a fan of Joe Navarro. No, the Jane’s Addiction guy. But the former FBI agent and supervisor who’s written multiple books on body language and non-verbal communication. Two of my favorites include: Louder than Words and Hunting Terrorists: A Look at the Psychopathology of Terror. I loved the second one, it’s hardcore psychology and […]

Coaching and communicating with assumptions

While I have discussed “the map isn’t the territory” before, I haven’t really dwelled into the other two important aspects of coaching that I absolutely swear by. NLP practitioners across the board would call these principles “pre-suppositions.” A pre-supposition is basically an assumption purely for convenience’s sake and that’s perhaps my biggest disagreement because I […]

The timid me…

Isn’t sure if he will be able to cope up, keep up and show up everyday (here or elsewhere). Is afraid of sharing his thoughts due to his insecurities ranging from “what would they think of me” to “I don’t think I have anything great to say” and everything in between. Wants to “know it […]

How much is too much?

Is a lame but critically important question. It can drive those highly self-aware people, creatives, philosophers and your mom crazy! The real challenge is that there isn’t a metric that would quantify or validate if you’re reached “enough” or “too much.” You simply feel it in the gut or have an intuition and that’s basically […]

Finding motivation to change… with baby steps

Bumped into these gems this morning, thought of sharing. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sJ3bvmYkPGs This is a great introduction to BJ Fogg’s concept of “motivational waves.” Check out his take on what causes behavioral change for a deeper perspective (though it’s a short article). If the video and article above intrigues you, do check out Fogg’s behavioral model that talks in […]

This post on productivity makes a heck of a lot of sense!

And thankfully, I didn’t write it. Ramit Sethi did! Check out his insanely awesome post on productivity (for the weird, as you would call it)! It’s different from the usual posts that you would read on productivity. It talks about details, psychology and most importantly the fundamentals. Here’s a gist of what you’ll read: Fundamentals […]

The I/R Theory

Found this excellent resource on the I/R Theory. Something I deeply believe in. In fact, I just spoke about this in a mastermind session I concluded like 15 minutes back! The concept has been instrumental in shaping my beliefs about who I am and what my roles are. One of the biggest learning was to […]

When shouldn’t you hire a coach?

I’ve been getting a lot of queries for coaching services lately. And as much as I love to coach someone professionally/personally, not everyone makes the cut. I end up refusing more than half of the leads that come through. Why? Because for the most part, the potential clients aren’t ready to get coached! Here’s the […]

Want to help? Stop giving advice!

Yeah, you read that right. Stop giving advice. Particularly when a friend/family member/spouse/parent/child approaches you for help. Now, I don’t mean you should push them off the cliff or leave them hanging there. Don’t be stupid. What I mean is this — almost 99% of the time people play games (unconsciously, of course!) which makes […]