The fear never goes away

Our pursuit to be perfect (or “flawless” if you’re in denial) is just never ending. The worst part is that you aim for perfection even if you’re not a perfectionist! Wait, how does that work? It’s simple, we’re all wired to postpone or procrastinate the things that are hard or new or both. Because we […]

Close the loop, always

Picture this — you’re out there in a sub-Saharan desert or some country thousands of miles away from home or just at your home in your study working hard to make ends meet, to make it matter and to make a difference in the bigger scheme of things. Everything’s fine until you think of a […]

Let’s not get dramatic

What is it with speakers and writers that every one of their characters (at least the ones that matter) has to die or has to have a near-death experience? And I’ve heard and evaluated a fair share of speeches by wannabe speakers, trainers and leaders with the same (almost) pattern. Beats me! No, I’m not […]

Coaching and communicating with assumptions

While I have discussed “the map isn’t the territory” before, I haven’t really dwelled into the other two important aspects of coaching that I absolutely swear by. NLP practitioners across the board would call these principles “pre-suppositions.” A pre-supposition is basically an assumption purely for convenience’s sake and that’s perhaps my biggest disagreement because I […]

Difficult Conversations

They ought to be had. And the sooner you do it, the better. Yet, we don’t do it as often as we should, which isn’t great since the opportunity cost is just too high. It may even cost your life! And it becomes even more important if you are the one needing that conversation. I […]

Your best move as a new soloprenuer

I know how it feels having a job one day and staying at home looking at the ceiling the next… wondering what on earth would you do or worse where the heck am I going to get my clients from? One of the biggest challenges solopreneurs face is to keep their sales/business development pipeline full. […]

Connecting with others takes energy… a lot of it!

You know most people prefer to “wing-it” on stage? Yeah, I know they’d like to stick with their natural style but you and I know that just BS. They prefer winging it because it’s far more draining for a speaker/presenter/communicator/trainer to take the time to know the audience. Think about the possible questions you will […]