Why random coaching engagements don’t work

I often get requests for one-off coaching sessions that’s people believe is going to fix their problems. And I almost always pass up these opportunities because coaching isn’t a one-off thing, it’s a long-term commitment. Besides, I’ve had my share of random conversations with strangers who open up and narrate their live’s struggles hoping that […]

It’s not about getting solutions but discovering them

Almost everyone I know confuses coaching with consulting or mentoring. And when I do try to explain most respond back clarifying, “what’s the damn point if the coach doesn’t have solutions to my challenges?” Reasonable, right? I used to think just that until I started to get coached and then explore, research, study and get […]

Classical coaching in action

Here’s a Timothy Gallawey classic training clip that demonstrates the true power of transformative coaching. It flies in the face of modern-day coaches who think coaching is all about balancing mentoring and coaching or acting like a sports coach (like the ones you seen in movies) to be effective. I know that’s BS but now […]

Changing oil couldn’t have saved the Titanic!

I’m pretty sure it didn’t have a chance. Nope. And here’s why — the problem was that damn iceberg! The engine was doing just fine. Perhaps a little too smooth to sail right into that slab of ice! Sorry if that sounds a little crude. I know more than 1,500 innocent passengers were killed that […]

What would you like to happen?

Like everyone, I get overwhelmed too. Lots of options, possibilities, and tactics to consider for my work, family, passion, business, training, routines, books, and sometimes even music! And it does get stressful at times, so much so that I keep wondering why do I keep making my life miserable. But that’s just another day at […]

Excellence is possible, even without talent

Of all the random things I do out of sheer curiosity, taking the Clifton Strengthsfinder 2.0 wasn’t. After rereading some of Gallup’s publications I simply got curious to know my natural talents. Who wouldn’t be after all, right? You’ll be surprised! More than 20 million people from across the globe have taken the Clifton Strengthsfinder […]

If you’re a fitness coach or a trainer — teach, don’t judge

One of my biggest pet peeves is seeing a bunch of personal trainers or coaches in a commercial gym checking out the members who’re trying to work out. Some comment on the form, tactics, reps or sets, gripping the barbell/dumbbell/machines or worse — the way they breathe. What I fail to understand is how valuable […]

Coaching and communicating with assumptions

While I have discussed “the map isn’t the territory” before, I haven’t really dwelled into the other two important aspects of coaching that I absolutely swear by. NLP practitioners across the board would call these principles “pre-suppositions.” A pre-supposition is basically an assumption purely for convenience’s sake and that’s perhaps my biggest disagreement because I […]

90% of coaching is self-coaching… but someone has to help them explore!

The other day Seth Godin shared a compelling post on why all motivation is self-motivation. And he’s so damn right, as usual, to say that. Motivation is an intent to take action by own our volition. Anything else is just coercion. But here’s one great problem — the post might’ve send wrong signals despite Seth’s […]

It’s the “marketplace” stupid!

One of my agendas for the day was to create a profile on Upwork as an Executive Coach. Not exactly my way of doing things but the idea was suggested by one of my benefactors. And since it didn’t hurt to create one, I just made it. Of course, I looked up other coaches in […]